Your wedding day is arguably one of the most important days of your life; granted that you only experience it once in a lifetime. And even when you’ve had multiple weddings, there are some things that you should always have the final say in.
A wedding is as multi-faceted as a corporate social event in the sense that both instances require intensive planning and decision-making. However, they differ greatly in the meaning they hold because while a corporate event is important for business, it can also be held annually and refined to fit preferences.
On the other hand, a wedding only happens once in a lifetime in most cases. Therefore, it holds a significant value in a couple’s relationship. It marks the end of your relationship as two single individuals and starts a new chapter in your life as a married couple.
From that moment on, you will have to run all your decisions by your spouse because you are a part of a whole in which your spouse holds the other part. So on the last day of your life as a single woman, there are things that you should have the final say on. You can compromise on the other parts of your wedding, but not these three aspects:
Your Look
From the strands of your hair to the color of your toenails, you should be the one to decide how you look on your wedding day. This is how you will look like on all your wedding photos, videos, and memories from this day, so you should be the one to decide it all.
You might regret letting other people handle decisions like the design of your outfit, the style of your hair, the make-up on your face, or even the accessories you wear along with your dress. It’s an aspect that is non-negotiable, especially because planning how you look is part of the process of becoming a bride.
How can you call yourself a blushing bride without drinking champagne with your friends as you try on wedding gowns in a boutique? Or twirling around in your chosen dress as you imagine yourself finally walking down the aisle with tears in your eyes?
You’ll only be a bride once in your life, so you should experience the entire adventure like a rite of passage. That way, you can look back on this process fondly, stress and happy tears included. You won’t want to pass off this opportunity to decide your entire look and outfit for your wedding.
Your Ring
Not to be materialistic, but your wedding ring is something that will soon become part of your daily outfit for the rest of your life. Therefore, it should be an accessory that you’ll be glad to wear forever. It shouldn’t be a ring that you are repulsed to wear or even look at.
Of course, your rings are something you decide with your soon-to-be spouse, but that doesn’t mean that you should let them hold the reins without asking for your opinion. A piece of advice: stick with rings that are simple and timeless.
Doing this will allow you to feel at ease with wearing the band on your ring finger for the rest of your life. Your ring doesn’t have to be so expensive that you’ll have to compromise on the other aspects of your wedding, nor should it be so cheap that it leaves a green lining on your finger after some time.
Your Guests
The most important part of a wedding is you, your soon-to-be spouse, and your chosen officiator. But like the old saying, it is always merrier when there are more people you can share an important occasion with.
Your guests are a vital aspect of your wedding, and like those two aspects before, you should also have the final say in this. A wedding is a celebration of your relationship. Therefore, both of you should have guests there that you want to invite and be part of your special day.
The reason for this is that you might regret not being able to invite the people closest to your heart later on. Besides, it can be lonely if none of your friends or family are present, but your spouse’s entourage has filled the venue.
Discuss the seating capacity and size of the guest list with your soon-to-be spouse. It will also be unfair if this happens the other way around. When you’re finalizing your guest list and seat plan, make sure that you accommodate guests from both sides of the wedding party to make the celebration even better.
A marriage shouldn’t be built on compromises alone, but they are crucial to making the marriage work. Give yourselves some time to adjust to your new situation without sacrificing your personal happiness in the process. Otherwise, it can become a rough start to the new chapter of your life.
